Mole Bopping

 

Kathleen Slattery-MoschkauRemember the game Whack a Mole? It was also sometimes called Bop a Mole. There was a board game version, an arcade version, a video version. The game was developed based on the idea of over zealous suburbanites or golf course owners driven mad by relentless moles in their yards or courses. In the game, players use a mallet to hit moles, which appear at random, back into their holes. A mole would pop its head up and the player would whack the mole. As soon as that mole was whacked, another would pop its head up and then another and another and another. The more you bopped them, the faster and faster the moles would pop up. It was a game you couldn’t win. It was a game that didn’t have a point.

Placing our happiness in things outside of us is exactly like this. Our constant need to control or arrange the world to be exactly to our liking is exhausting and relentless. It is a game. It is a lie. What is the next thing you will need to make you happy? And the next and the next? Whacking moles until you take your last breath. Maybe, only in that last breath, comes the full realization that happiness and peace was in you all along.

The second we understand this, we are free. It is such a relief.

Let’s try several scenarios on for size:

When I get a different job…then I’ll be happy.
When I get the perfect guy, girl, partner….
When I get the new house…
When my mom gets her health back…
When I have $1,000 or $10, 0000 or $1,000,000 in my bank account…
When that colleague that drives me crazy finally quits…
If everyone at family holiday events acts and talks just the way I want them to…
When my brother comes back from being deployed…
When I lose the weight…
When so and so starts treating me with respect…
When I get the PhD…

Then I will be happy.

Nope. Not true. The above are moving targets. Ghosts of sorts. Just when you think you have one thing ‘fixed’ the next will hijack your attention, your internal peace and happiness. This creates so much suffering. Completely unnecessary suffering.

Just set it all down. It is an option. We do not have to arrange or control the outside world. At all, ever. The moment you drop your need to push, force, cajole, conspire…that is the moment you start living. Living! Peaceful and liberated.

Happiness Is An Inside Job

Find peace, love and respect in yourself, do not seek it from others. Instead of looking out, look within. Meditate daily to give yourself space to see the folly for what it is. To see the unhealthy patterns of the mind. To get enough distance and perspective to make a different set of choices each day. There is nothing as powerful as awareness.

 

Kathleen Slattery-Moschkau is the owner of The Studio. She teaches Guided Meditation most Saturdays at 7:45am and Vinyasa Flow on Tuesdays at 5:15. She is also available for one-on-one Life and Health Consulting. 

Kathleen wants you to know she does not recommend bopping actual moles. She’s an animal hugger, lover, rescuer.